Faye Bryant

The Spiritual Head of the Home?

A friend asked the question recently, “What does “the man being the spiritual head of your home” mean to you?”

I know there are many women who do not like the word “submission.” Not when it comes to their marriage, in the workplace or anywhere else. That’s Eve’s fault, ladies. We’ll be talking with her for a while about those choices she made that have affected us, right?

In our home, my husband being the spiritual head of our home means that he is an umbrella of protection between me and God. He has taken on being responsible to God for godly living for both of us. When I stray, he bears the consequence from God and when I thrive, he bears the blessings – as well as for his own walk.

It also means that when we have major decisions to be made, we discuss them. I provide all my research, thoughts, and opinions. Usually we’re on the same page, but sometimes we’re not.

That’s when I defer to his decision. That’s the submission part. In 29 years I have learned that I don’t have to be right, nor do I have to persuade my husband to join me on “my” side. I want us to both be on God’s side. That’s why I let go of the need to control our home and marriage.

When I have spiritual questions that I haven’t found answers for, I go to my beloved. If he doesn’t have an answer either, he will say so and we’ll both step back and pray for the answer. God is so faithful that it rarely takes more than a day or two for us to learn what He says.

I’ve lived with one husband who led me away from God, but my husband of 29 years as of Monday constantly leads me to God. He also takes care of me, watching out for me physically, mentally, and emotionally.

I believe that this kind of spiritual leadership requires both the husband and the wife. We women have to let go and allow our husbands to be the men God died for them to be.

Now, I know that there are husbands who don’t take on the role assigned them by the Almighty. I get that and so did God when He had Peter write, “In the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands. Then, even if some refuse to obey the Good News, your godly lives will speak to them without any words. They will be won over. ” You’ll find that in 1 Peter 3:1.

I think my ability to submit to my man is because I know he would die for me. He removes risk every chance he gets. He cheers me on. He gives up things he wants in order to give me the things that I want. (Sometimes I get him back, though.)

I’d love it if you’d share about your marriage and what you believe the “spiritual head of the home” looks like.